Men are not from Mars, women are not from Venus | U of T Research

Men are not from Mars, women are not from Venus | U of T Research & Innovation

Professor Mari Ruti of the Department of English and Drama at the University of Toronto Mississauga is taking on the self-help industry in her new book The Case for Falling in Love: Why We Can’t Master the Madness of Love—and Why That’s the Best Part. Ruti works at the intersection of contemporary theory, psychoanalysis, continental philosophy and gender and sexuality studies. Her book is written for a mainstream audience and she hopes it will help women and men understand that love is not a game to be won or lost.

The main argument is that the image of romantic love that the self-help industry tries to sell is based on a few misconceptions. The first is the idea that love is a game with winners and losers. The second is the idea that men and women are inherently different so that to make romance work, women need to learn to read the so-called male psyche.